if anybody asks me why i hate men, i’m just gonna redirect them to this post.
it’s pretty fucking obvious that men only want to invest in breast cancer research to further degrade, objectify, and jerk off to body parts they already feel 100% entitled to. that’s what is at stake for them.
what about the women whose “tatas” weren’t saved? how must they feel being surrounded by awareness ads that focus more on keeping women’s sexy-sexy-titties-to-continue-titillating-the-males than saving real life human beings and helping survivors?
If anyone’s wondering, those posts came from here. It’s a forum for breast cancer support. Give it a read, and you’ll see how many women are outright abandoned by their husbands, sometimes after being married for decades, because their “tatas” couldn’t be saved.
This culture of “save the tatas” even goes as far as the doctor’s offices themselves. Most doctors request that the husband be present during surgical consultations, as though he has an equal say in the patient-professional discussion.
If the woman is single, as was my case, doctors have actually recommended postponing surgery until she finds a relationship, because “it could be nearly impossible to find someone who accepts it [your unnatural tatas] in years to come”.
I’m 15 months post-mastectomy, and the date I had this past week was the first time since then that a guy hadn’t reacted negatively to my scars. The relief was so overwhelming that I was fighting back tears. When I told him —essentially warning him that my body wasn’t what he must be expecting — I felt so guilty; it seemed to have the same weight and shame as telling someone I had some sort of an incurable STI or a felony record.
I shouldn’t have felt that way. I should not be ashamed of choosing to live.
Thank you for your important commentary! I hope you find someone who can love you for who you are and admire your strength as a survivor.
holy shit this just makes me so immensely disgusted and i actually feel sick to the core??? just. holy shit.
The thing about this is that sculptures like these in art history were for the male gaze. Photoshop a phone to it and suddenly she’s seen as vain and conceited. That’s why I’m 100% for selfie culture because apparently men can gawk at women but when we realize how beautiful we are we’re suddenly full of ourselves…
Girls don’t let anyone tell you loving yourself is vanity.
|Woman:||I'm a feminist and my male friends told me to stop calling myself that because feminists are supposed to be ugly man-hating monsters and equality has basically been achieved.|
|Anti-feminists:||Well that's their opinion so you HAVE to respect it, I mean it's dumb to end friendships over something small like that, just get over it.|
|Women:||Sometimes I don't feel safe around men.|
|Anti-feminists:||WOW that is so sexist and unfair like I thought you cared about equality you are such a BIGOT like I can't be friends with such a misandrist bitch how dare you.|
|Guy:||What do girls do at sleepovers?|
|Me:||Pass the Bechdel test.|
I’m gonna fucking go postal on 4chan I s2g
A woman can’t even think or talk about wanting equal rights/treatment without consequences, and they wonder why we still need feminism smfh
”In a textbook example of why feminism isn’t just a women’s issue”
What a weird take on it. More like ”in a textbook example of males reacting violently and threateningly to put a woman back in her place.”
For the last comment… @coeur-de-porcelaine - what a perfect synopsis.
|man:||when you dress like that it's like putting a steak in front of a dog. what do you expect?|
|woman:||*proves that even dogs have discipline*|
|man:||wHat!!!!!11!!!?????? WHY ??????????????????????????????????? ARE YOU SERIOUSLY!!!!!!!!!!!!! COMPARING US FREE-THINKING MALE CITIZENS TO DOGS????????????????????/ FEMINISM IS MISANDRY!!!!!1!!!!!111!! WHERE DID OUR MEN'S RIGHTS GO|
We know why.
Don’t forget Charlie Sheen. He’s been arrested for domestic violence at least six times and shot a woman. With a gun. And he’s still got a career.
Sean Penn tied Madonna to a chair and beat her. Fuck him. Fuck all of them.
Ringo too I’m pretty sure
Phil Spector, although he’s now in jail for killing a lady he beat on Ronnie Spector for years and still got into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame
Jim Morrison tried to set fire to his girlfriend
I could go on.
The point isn’t that the men on the left don’t deserve everything bad they have coming to them. The point is where the fuck is all the outrage when the men on the right do it. So many of our pop culture heroes are abusers and nobody seems to care.
Like, even if we’re gonna stick to the NFL, Ben Roethlisberger patiently sat out his six game suspension for rape and continued on with his career with little outrage.
If we’re really going to care now about ostracizing perpetrators of domestic violence, we got a lotta slack to pick up.
Adding more to the list:
Gary Oldman - hit ex-wife Donya Fiorentino repeatedly about the face with a telephone receiver in front of their two children.
Sean Connery - thinks an openhanded slap is justified if a woman is a “bitch, or hysterical, or bloody-minded.”
Josh Brolin - was arrested for abusing Diane Lane in 2004.
Glen Campbell - beat Tanya Tucker and on one occasion knocked her teeth out. Glen actually received a tribute at the 2012 Grammy Awards—the same year that Chris Brown received so much vitriol for performing.
Jonathan Rhys Meyers - was arrested in 2005 after he was accused of beating up his teenage girlfriend and throwing a cellphone at her. The 27-year-old actor later made a counter allegation that the 18-year-old girlfriend had assaulted him. The warring couple were both questioned at a London police station before being released on bail. He was also verbally abusive and threatening to a woman who tried to help him up off the floor during one of his drunken airport episodes. “Don’t you know who I am?” Yes dear, you’re the King of fucking England.
Harry Morgan - best known for his role as Col. Sherman Potter in the television series “MASH,” was accused in July 1996 of beating his wife.
Sean Bean - has been arrested for harassing an ex girlfriend and has been reported for domestic assault.
Tommy Lee -pleaded no contest in April 1998 to a felony charge of spousal battery against his wife, former “Baywatch” star Pamela Anderson. Lee received a three-year suspended prison sentence, was required to spend 180 days in jail and ordered to pay a total of $6,200 to a shelter for battered women. Anderson, who filed for divorce shortly after the incident, reportedly had hoped her husband would be spared jail time.
Roman Polanski - raped of a 13-year-old girl before fleeing the country.
Eminem - Wrote the song “Kim” about abusing his wife.
Here’s the lyrics:
- Kim: “Baby you’re so precious/Daddy’s so proud of you/Sit down bitch/If you move again I’ll beat the shit out of you”
- Kim: “There’s a four year old boy lyin’ dead with a slit throat/In your living room, ha-ha/What you think I’m kiddin’ you?/You loved him didn’t you?”
- Kim: “[sound of his wife choking] NOW BLEED! BITCH BLEED!/BLEED! BITCH BLEED! BLEED!”
- Wrote a song, “‘97 Bonnie and Clyde,” about murdering his wife and disposing of his body in the presence of his child
- '97 Bonnie and Clyde: “Oh where’s mama? She’s takin a little nap in the trunk/Oh that smell (whew!) da-da musta runned over a skunk”
- '97 Bonnie and Clyde: “And mama said she wants to show how far she can float/And don’t worry about that little boo-boo on her throat/It’s just a little scratch - it don’t hurt, her was eatin/dinner while you were sweepin and spilled ketchup on her shirt”
- '97 Bonnie and Clyde: “Here, you wanna help da-da tie a rope around this rock? (yeah!)/We’ll tie it to her footsie then we’ll roll her off the dock”
Made fun of Tommy Lee and Pamela Anderson’s domestic abuse case in “The Real Slim Shady”
Elvis Presley - According to "Elvis Presley. The Man. The Life. The Legend." written by Pamela Keogh. Elvis was immensely abusive towards Priscilla. He was stationed overseas during WWII where they met. He often lied to her parents to get her to spend the night. He would have sex with her, and would give her amphetamines. (The amphetamines were distributed by the Army to help him sleep, and he gave them to everybody.) When the war ended and he went home, he forced her to come with him. She was expected to sit at home while he had affairs. He didn’t even want to marry her, it was simply a publicity stunt. Elvis was immensely controlling. He made Priscilla dress the way he wanted (and would yell at and insult her when she wore something that he didn’t approve of), do her hair the way he wanted, and wear as much make up as he wanted her to.
Mel Gibson - assaulted, struck with his fist and choked, his ex girlfriend Oksana Grigorieva while she was still holding her baby. He then went on towards the pool, screaming and yelling and then told Oksana to get the ‘fuck’ out, and went to get his gun.
Signal boosting this shit, because all of these women beating pieces of shit should be put on full blast! No mercy for this kind of behavior!
Lets not forget Woody Allen!
I blamed my rape on myself. Me! A fervent feminist since the tender age of thirteen.
At 18, I *just knew* that my rape was because I was drunk, it was valentines day, he was my boyfriend. I *knew* that he loved me.
My rape was none of those things. I was gone, wasted, trashed. I had thrown up, couldn’t walk, couldn’t speak. Couldn’t consent. I though my rape could have been a dream!
Until I asked him what happened the next day.
First he said “you were drunk. You asked for a shower.” I asked him if he fucked me. He looked shocked. He said yes. He knew it was wrong.
I never reported him. I never pressed charges. I was a bad plaintiff. I just told him never to do that again. I went back to bed with a wicked hangover.
How can I trust men? I can I trust half the population when they know rape is wrong but still commit acts of violence. When they still betray our trust?
I’ve only ever been with demanding, abusive men. I don’t know what is next.
So my fiancé has this dumbass friend who keeps bringing up feminism and women’s rights and sexism when I repeatedly have told him that WE DO NOT TALK ABOUT THESE THINGS because A) He believes horrible toxic things and is a horrible sexist B) also happens to be one of my fiancé’s oldest and closest friends.
I keep telling him that if we’re supposed to coexists we do not discuss these thins. Because all he wants to do is upset me and make me think I’m “hysterical” or something. He just wants to screw with me. So I drew a line and told him DO NOT CROSS IF YOU WANT TO STAY FRIENDS WITH MY FIANCÉ. Because if he doesn’t cut the crap he will be banned from our house, he won’t be allowed near our children and I will make it hard for him to participate in my social circle because I do not have to be around someone who disrespects my boundaries and tries to make me sick. I don’t need to expose my children to someone who blatantly disrespects their mother. My basic human rights will not be trumped by his compulsion to trod on my boundaries.
But of course he just can’t respect that request. He messages me videos and articles of things that are toxic and maddening and hurtful and I show all these conversations to my fiancé because he KNOWS I have this line and he knows that anyone who cannot respect me and my needs cannot be allowed in our home or around our children.
Of course this dumbass boy tries to make ME seem horrible and like I’m pushing “all his friends away” and making my fiancé miserable when really I know my value and I know that anyone who can’t simply NOT MENTION A THING around me is not someone who I need to put up with in my safe spaces. LIKE MY HOME.
I told him that he clearly doesn’t want to be in my fiancé’s life if he can’t respect that request. That any alienation is all on him and not me, because it’s his actions that are fucking up his relationship with my future husband.
Seriously, I do not need to put up with someone who is vile and disrespectful to me. Say all what you will about free speech, but I decide who is allowed in my home and around my children. Which ultimately makes that jerk’s involvement in my husband’s life very slim.
I wish I could be a boy and do boy things like benefit from the patriarchy and pee standing up.